The easy and very effective way to eliminate your approach anxiety is to create a personalized routine stack, rehearse it until you’ve memorized and internalized it, and use it every time you approach until your game feels natural.
What do most guys say is the reason they don’t approach? They say that they don’t approach because they don’t know what to say. If they’re told what to open with, they’ll then always say, “Ok, but what do I say after that?”
My point is that if you always know what to say to open a fun conversation with an attractive girl, you know how to make it flirty, and you know what to say and do to move the conversation in a sexual direction, then you’ll never have a real reason to feel any approach anxiety.
The first time I ever created a routine for myself was years ago when I read the Venutian Arts Handbook. I didn’t know how I should structure it. So I just stacked one interesting routine on top of another. The only thing that was original was my opener. I created my own opinion opener because I didn’t feel comfortable with any of the ones that I read in the book. They just seemed way too long.
It just seemed strange to me to have such a long explanation as to why I’m talking to a girl in a bar. So my opinion opener was simply, “So what do you think is the most common reason a girl rejects a guy? Is it because he’s ugly, or is it because he’s boring?” That opinion opener worked because I had confidence that it would and it’s just short enough and interesting enough to spark female interest.
The first time I used that opinion opener along with stacking routines I got a phone number and a date. I felt very confident going into the set and felt very little approach anxiety because I was fully prepared and had faith that the routines worked.
I rarely use opinion openers now and almost any routine that I use now is my own original routine, but without using someone else’s material in the first place, I wouldn’t have had the confidence to approach regularly and therefore I wouldn’t have the skill that I have now.
The structure of my routine stack is as follows: (1) Social Direct Opener, (2) I will tease, but only if the opportunity to tease is there. I don’t want to manufacture a tease just for the sake of teasing. Forcing a tease when the opportunity isn’t really there, will make you look socially awkward and possibly look like an asshole if you just met, but if the opportunity is there, by all means, take it. (3) a Fun Cold Read Transition, (4) a Small Hoop Qualification Question, (5) an Attraction Routine that involves touch, (6) and a Playful Medium Hoop Qualifier.
By performing those steps in a bar atmosphere on a set that really hooks, you could definitely be making out with a girl within three to five minutes.
In my next post I’ll give you a detailed example of one of my own routine stacks and I will take you through each step and why each step is important.
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