Without masculine confidence, you literally have nothing. It’s the foundation that everything else is built on. For most people, confidence is situational. That simply means that their confidence is only present when they’re in a situation that they feel comfortable and competent because of their past experiences and successes in similar situations.
When you have masculine confidence, it really doesn’t matter if you’ve been in or had past success in a similar situation or not, you still believe you can achieve or accomplish whatever the task is at hand. In other words, whether you have experience at something or not, you feel you could adapt to and overcome any obstacle that’s put in your way. That’s masculine confidence!
Develop a Sense of Entitlement
Every man that seems to be naturally good at everything has a sense of entitlement. Every time a natural walks into a place with hot girls in it, he always feels that they are all attracted to him, and they are all hoping that he’ll come over to talk to them. Every time a natural walks into a job interview or an interview for a promotion he has no doubt that he’s going to get the job. Do you know why? It’s because he has masculine confidence. He feels that there’s no problem too big that he can’t prepare for, nothing he can’t draw on his past experience for to inspire him, and no unforeseen obstacle that he can’t overcome.
I am not a natural. I’m the last thing that you’d ever consider a natural. Everything I have now, I’ve had to work very hard for. I didn’t start off with any natural physical ability. I was definitely the skinniest kid in high school. When someone tells you they were skinny in school, they still weren’t as skinny as I was. High school was many years ago, and since then I’ve put on fifty pounds of muscle. And I’m still not a big guy, nobody would consider me a big guy, but when I take my shirt off in front of a girl, she definitely appreciates the definition that I now have.
My whole point is, if I could walk into any place and feel like I’m the most attractive guy, the guy with the most game, the overall most bad ass guy anywhere I go, then why the hell can’t you? I started from zero, and now I have the confidence to feel like I’m the best I’ve ever seen in any venue that I’m entering. That’s where I want you to be. That’s where you can be. It all starts with just believing that it’s possible.
How to Attain Masculine Confidence
Put on Muscle. It’s that simple. When you put muscle and definition on your body, your confidence with women and in every other situation in life will go way up. Don’t be fooled, women love guys with muscles. Sure, you could get away with having good game without muscles, but why not give yourself every advantage possible.
I’ll give you a real life example. Every time I have a new girl in my arms for the first time, I always get her turned on by putting her hand on my chest. Visualize this, you’re both standing. You’re both face to face with a couple of inches in between your bodies. You have your right hand around her waist. With your left hand you take her right hand and strategically place it on your right pectoral muscle. Believe me, she’ll love that. It will instantly spark some sexual tension. If you haven’t done it already with her, go for a make out. If you’d done it already, do it again and proceed accordingly with progressive steady escalation in a place where sex can realistically happen.
Posture and Masculine Body Language
Make sure that your posture and body language is masculine. Start by walking with good upright posture, it will make you feel more in charge and confident. When you’re standing, make sure to always look relaxed with an open stance. Smile easily. It’s the single most important and simple thing you can do to instantaneously make you look for attractive and relaxed.
Get rid of your cargo pants, khakis, goofy polo shirts and running shoe combinations. Think of the movie, The 40 Year Old Virgin. If you’re dressing anything like the lead character in the movie, then you desperately need to make some changes. If you feel like you don’t have any sense of style, go with the bad ass method. Think of a contemporary bad ass character in an action movie that both kicks ass and gets girls, and then adopt his style. Think of Vin Diesel in the Fast and the Furious. He gets girls and he’s a bad ass. Think of the Bourne movies. Jason Bourne dresses in a masculine, but simple way.
Slowing everything down
Slow down everything you say. Slow it down, but make sure to slow it down with inflection. If you speak too fast, people may erroneously think that you’re nervous. Also, when you speak slower and with intention, you automatically feel more in control, authoritative and therefore more confident.
If Time Permits, Prepare Yourself
In situations where time permits, make sure to always prepare yourself. For example if you’re going on a job interview. Write down every possible question you think the interview could ask you, write down your best detailed answer and start rehearsing. Act as if you are an actor preparing for the role of a life time. Don’t leave anything to chance. Only when you are prepared in a situation like this, it will look like you are just naturally good at it.
You can also prepare in other situations in life. Prepare before you go out. Do as many push up as you can do in a two minute period right before you take a show in preparation to go out. It’ll get you pumped mentally and physically. If you haven’t gotten out in a while, also look at and review your stack.
Before you go to the gym, make sure to mentally review what exercises you’re going to do once you get there. Your mind feels at ease knowing what to expect. Mental preparation is directly connected to your physical performance.
Positive Self- Talk
If you’ve never done a certain something, one of the greatest things you can do for yourself is to give yourself positive self- talk. Say to yourself in a dismissal tone, “Others have done it before, therefore so can I. I can even do it better than them.”
Another positive self-talk affirmation that I always tell myself is, “I’m the best there is at this!” Or, “I’m the best I’ve ever seen!”
I’m the best that there is and the best there ever was, is what I always tell myself. It may not be totally true, but if it works for me, what does it really matter. It works for me, so I know it can work for you. Go ahead and try these methods and let me know how you make out.