Besides being a confident guy, taking responsibility for making things happen by taking the lead is the number one way to maintain attraction.
There are a number of ways to take responsibility. Taking responsibility starts from the moment of the approach to physically escalating in bed and everywhere else in between. It simply means taking the necessary steps that women expect of you in order to move the interaction forward.
Attraction Cannot be Maintained Without Leading
It is your responsibility to lead. If you don’t lead the interaction in the direction that you want it to go and most of the time where she also wants it to go, it will stagnate and she will eventually lose attraction. If you don’t lead throughout the entire seduction process she will think that you are passive. If she thinks that you’re passive, to her that will also mean that you are not a confident man. Women are not attracted to men who lack confidence in themselves.
You have to always come from the frame of mind that only when you take action will the seduction process move forward and in your favor. If you do nothing because you’re afraid of messing up what you already have, then you’re going to lose her anyway. A woman doesn’t enjoy being with a man who is scared to take action. She will always be attracted to a guy who is confident enough to make a move. It doesn’t even have to always be the right one. If you do nothing, then you will get nothing.
It is your responsibility to lead. No matter how much she is into you or attracted to you, don’t expect her to lead. You have to. Whether you want to talk to her, hold her hand for the first time, kiss her, get her number, ask her to hang out, get her to come back to your place, or physically escalating into sex, nothing will happen unless you make it happen.
If a woman is attracted and comfortable with you, she will always follow. Women feel social pressure to not openly express that they love sex for example, but when a man is able to confidently lead, she no longer has to make a decision. She can just follow, and feel that it just happened.
It is naturally feminine to follow and masculine to lead. It’s also very attractive to a woman for the guy to lead. So keep in mind that if you are not taking responsibility for leading, you are in turn behaving in a feminine way.
You Must Take the Initiative and Lead
Even the decision to go for a first kiss as early as possible is a great example of taking responsibility of moving things forward. Even if she doesn’t let you kiss her on the first try, you still will become more attractive to her, simply for the fact that you had the confidence to make the move. If there’s a girl that you’re dating and you feel that things are moving too slow, just keep in mind that it’s probably because you are not taking the initiative to move things forward. You are the man and if a girl is attracted to you, then you can dictate how fast things are going to move.
Start being bold by taking action. She’ll see you as masculine and confident, and that will keep her attracted.
