It’s one thing to get a hot girl that you find attractive inside and out, but it’s a whole other matter to keep one. In order to keep the hot girl in your life, you need to get her to invest, you need to have an attractive identity, have a fun and active lifestyle, be able to sexually satisfy her, and not show any needy behavior.
Get Her to Invest
If you want to keep a certain girl in your life, you have to get her to invest in the relationship. Make sure that she contributes to the process. Make her invest from the start. If she doesn’t contribute, she won’t value the relationship. This can start with something as small as holding your drink at the bar, or bringing some dessert to eat when she comes to stay at your place. The more she’s invested in the process, the more she’s going to value it and the more she’s going to want to make it work and put an effort into it.
Sexually Satisfy Her
Women want to know that you can sexually satisfy them. Women love sex as much or more than you do. They love sex. You have to be able to sexually satisfy them. Don’t be a passive guy and expect her to initiate sex. That will only turn her off and nothing will happen. Be the man and ravish her. Allow her to be the woman and passive by you taking the lead. Always remember that women absolutely love sex, but they will not stay with a guy that acts like a pussy or isn’t confident in bed.
Have an Attractive Identity
Your identity is who you are. It’s how you describe yourself. It’s the image of yourself you project to the world, and how strong and congruent that is. It also has to do with your vision and the goals you have in your life. To get a hot girl you need to describe your identity in an attractive way, but to keep her, you need to actually demonstrate your attractive identity. You need to project an identity that she would feel proud telling her best friend and all her girlfriends about.
Part of your identity is having an active and fun social life outside of your relationship. Without an active and fun social life outside of your relationship she will soon realize that you are boring. Also, by not having anything else going on in your life, you will exhibit needy behavior because your whole life will revolve around her. By exhibiting needy behavior, she will eventually lose all attraction for you.
Don’t Be Needy
Begin to understand the power that emotions have on shaping your life and all your relationships. Realize that showing emotion is a female trait and no matter what a woman says, she doesn’t want an emotional guy. She views an emotional or needy guys as being weak or woman like. Women are attracted to men that are both strong physically and emotionally.
Lots of guys are aware that they’re sabotaging their relationships with needy behavior, but they’re just not sure exactly what they’re doing wrong. Being needy in a relationship isn’t always about needing to talk to someone several times a day. It could mean you need constant reassurance that your partner loves you or that you are attractive.
Desperation is a big turn off. You have to respect the other person’s time and their life outside of you. Don’t ask for reassurance. Questions such as, “Why are you with me?” and “Do you find me attractive?” If your woman did not enjoy being with you, or at least like you, she would not be with you in the first place.
You always should give her space to hang out with her friends and you should have time away from her and hang out with your friends. Don’t call her or text her everyday. If she texts you, then text her back, but don’t initiate it everyday.
If you invite her to stay over your place and she gives you a reason why she can’t, don’t act disappointed. Acting disappointed is your emotions getting the best of you. Being emotional is a female trait. Women know that, and she will start to lose interest in you if you act emotional when things don’t go your way.
The best way to stop being needy in a relationship is to force yourself not to be. It’s difficult to stop your bad pattern of behavior, but the best way is to think about what your needy behavior has gotten you in the past. In the past your needy behavior has caused women to lose interest in you very quickly, even if at one time she was very attracted to you.
When you act insecure, she will eventually will lose all attraction for you. You might still have needy thoughts but push them aside and enjoy spending time with your girl in the moment. After a while, this will become your new behavior and your relationship will become better than ever. When your head is constantly filled with thoughts of worry and paranoia about a relationship, it’s hard to recognize the damage you’re doing to the relationship and how she is losing attraction for you.
There is always going to be someone hotter than you or someone who makes more money, but you have to keep in mind that she is with you because she wants to be and enjoys being with you. Enjoy spending time with your woman and realize that she is with you because she wants to be. And as soon as she’s no longer enjoying herself, she’ll be gone. So just keep in mind, if she’s with you, there’s no reason to second guess stuff. Just be the masculine man that she wants in her life and enjoy the time you have together.