For guys who are not naturally good with women, sexual anxiety is just as common as approach anxiety. Just as big of a reason for having approach anxiety is not knowing what to do because a lack of experience, the same reasoning applies to having sexual anxiety. By having the frame of mind that once you know what to do in a sexual situation, all you have to do is execute the plan, you should produce much better results than you’ve been having.
Increase Your Cardiovascular Endurance
You might be thinking what does increasing your cardio endurance have to do with being good in bed. Well actually it has a lot to do with it. If you are a guy that’s really out of shape, I could guarantee you that you can’t fuck your girl the way she wants you to do her. To do her hard, fast and continuously, you’re going to need endurance.
Fucking a girl good takes cardio endurance. You could think of it as needing the endurance to do a series of short wind sprints for about two hours straight. If you thought about it in that context, wouldn’t you agree that you need to improve your endurance? She desires to be dominated in bed. If you can’t do that because of your lack of stamina, you’re most likely going to leave her unsatisfied. Luckily this is a problem that is easily fixed. Just start running a couple of miles per day a few times per week. You’ll notice the difference right away.
Stop Watching Porn
I challenge you to completely stay away from porn. Porn is detrimental to your mind. If you watch enough of it, eventually your mind will need more of it and progressively dirtier scenes to get you turned on.
Remember when you were much younger. Back then even just the thought of a hot girl entering your mind would get you hard. Think of the way you are now. It probably takes you much more now to get turned on. The reason for that is most likely the amount of porn you’ve watched over the years.
Porn has desensitized you to the beauty of women. Now just seeing a naked woman in a magazine isn’t enough to turn you on. Where at one time it was much more than enough.
So stop watching porn entirely and you’ll notice that just the sight or even the perfume scent of a hot girl will start to turn you on again.
Mentally Prepare Yourself
Mentally prepare with visualization. If you have lots of sexual experience then you don’t need visualization. Most of you who are reading this don’t have much sexual experience so visualization will definitely help you.
If you’re expecting her to come over to your place later in the night, visualize exactly how your night will progress sexually. Start out by visualizing how you will start making out with her all the way to having sex. Make sure to include lots of detail. Include how good her perfume smells, how soft her skin is, and the sounds she’s making. Also include the different positions you put her in.
Visualization will help you get over any nervousness you might be having due to your lack of experience. When you visualize something a few times it’ll feel like you’ve actually lived through that experience. Your mind doesn’t really know the difference.
Focus on Her Pleasure
When you have her in bed make sure to focus on her pleasure. Girls think about sex just as often as guys do, but they do need more warming up before they’re ready to have sex. Warm her up with enough hot foreplay that she will eventually tell you to fuck her or she will ask you if you have a condom. If you haven’t gotten any of those two reactions, you probably haven’t given her enough foreplay.
Even though you so much want to get to fucking her, don’t rush to it! Let her give you the signal when she’s ready. If you rush to it, you might just get last minute resistance.
Take the time to really pleasure her body. You’re definitely attracted to how hot she looks. So why wouldn’t you want to take your time pleasuring her body. Take your time making out with her and feeling her body. Don’t be in a hurry to take off her clothes. Do everything gradually and slowly but continuously during foreplay and everything will happen much more smoothly and easily.
Show Off Your Dominant Side
Be exciting by being dominant. Being dominant in bed is a form of leading. It turns her on because it shows her that you are confident in what you’re doing and you’re not afraid to make a move. Be dominant by physically lifting her up during sex, spanking her while doing her from behind, putting her in different positions and telling her what to do next.
In conclusion, by increasing your endurance, learning to focus on her pleasure, and by being dominant, you’re going to sexually satisfy her, and she’ll definitely want you back again and again.
